Recovery with Theo
By Karl H (Oct 2015)
It was towards the end 2010 that I walked into Theo’s office. I didn’t quite know what to expect. At that point I was just desperate for help and hoped Theo would be it.
I cannot remember much of that first session, however three things stayed with me. One, this “thing” had a name and as I already suspected, I am a sex addict. Two that this would take much longer than the 6 sessions I had in mind and just one of many denials that needed to be dispelled. Thirdly, that recovery is a process of relearning.
The path of recovery is never easy, but for me the first twelve months was a particularly tough time in my life and Theo always put my personal well being first. Like an onion, we peeled layer after layer of my denials and miss placed beliefs to get to a place where I could grow from and be healed. In his compassionate and caring way Theo would challenge, guide and mentor me for the next four years. I have learned many new tools to help me express and cope with my emotions and no longer do I need to rely on my addiction as a coping mechanism.
As I progressed on this path of recovery, it affected all aspects of my life. Much of the later part was spent learning the life skills to stay in recovery. I am especially thankful for the positive impact it had in personal relationships and the relationship with my Higher Power.
Life and in it recovery, is an ongoing journey. For some the label sex addict is curse, for others an excuse, for me it is part of who I am. It points to an emotional blind spot and today I can truly appreciate the “gift” of addiction. Recovery presented me with so many wonderful things I would not have been exposed to otherwise. Today I can face life on life’s terms one day at a time
Thank you so much for the brilliant workshop that you held at the Northfield Methodist church. I found it incredibly interesting and was most enlightened J. It will definitely help me with any of these issues when counselling in the future.
You did mention that we should email you and you would send us notes which I would much appreciate.
Once again thank you for your time and wisdom.
Deanne de Witt (Sept 2015)
I would like to extend a huge thank you for the amazing morning we shared with you last week. I speak not only for my team but also for myself. The manner in which you deconstructed the mystery surrounding sexual addiction was very helpful. For many this is a very difficult addiction to get their heads around. Not only did you present in a way that really opened up understanding and compassion, but you were also deeply pastoral in your approach which was very helpful to my team. The humour that you brought with you was just enough so as not seem as though the topic is something to take lightly, but rather it helped everyone to relax and learn. So once again a very big thank you,
Thank you for taking on this work,
May God bless you in all that you do
Moira (Sept 2015)
Moira Keymer, Northfield Methodist Church, H.O.D. Pastoral Care Centre, email@example.com, Work 010 140 0217, Cell 083 445 2602
I recommend Theo Kriek and this workshop to every service provider and counselling centre treating sexual addiction. It is based on the pioneering work of Dr. Patrick Carnes who started the first treatment centres in the US for sexual addiction. The need for therapists and counsellors in this area is tremendous. When more people can be equipped and have a better understanding on how sex addiction operates, the better the chance to help those caught up in this tsunami. Theo Kriek has both the training and experience to teach about and give understanding in how the addiction operates and impact people’s lives. Prof Wentzel Coetzer – North West University
I attended the first workshop on understanding pornography and sexual addiction, presented by Theo Kriek. The workshop gave me a renewed appreciation for the complexities surrounding each individual’s addiction and unique road to recovery. Be ready for high octane information! It’s packed with clinical information, research, analysis, roadmaps and perspectives. The many case studies which Theo Kriek presents keep one connected with the fact that this is not about theory, but the pain and lives of real people. The workshop will not make you an overnight expert on the topic. It will however give you appreciation for the landscape and sufficient knowledge to know when to get more expertise involved in helping someone. Theo’s depth of knowledge and understanding on the topic is unmatched in South Africa. It was a privileged to have spent the few days with him. I highly recommend this workshop for professionals that need insight in sexual addiction.
Eben de Wit– Program Bestuurder van Courage: ‘n Ondersteuningsgroep van Kerk sonder Mure, vir mense wat kans sien om eerlik te wees oor hulle stryd om vry te kom van pornografie.
I hereby recommend the 4-day professional workshop on sex addiction presented by Theo Kriek. I attended last year and it was truly an eye-opener in a very unique and challenging therapeutic field. Solid information, practical skills as well as numerous examples were given which made it a very useful training experience. Theo Kriek is well educated in the field of sex addiction and together with his vast experience in helping numerous sex addicts; he is a very capable trainer. I have no doubt that this training would be very valuable for anyone interested in helping sex addicts.
Dr Wiid, Pastoral Therapist
Licensed Mental Health Counselor at Ellen D Imbiano, PLLC
Theo is a consummate professional. His programs are innovative and he is a pioneer in his area. He shows dedication and offers hope to his growing number of clients. I highly respect his gentle, professional approach with clients!